Barbara J. Michalecko-Crabb of Riverhead died April 1, 2026. She was 66 years old.
Born June 23, 1959, in Riverhead, she was the daughter of Maryann (Bonkoski) and Paul Michalecko and was one of six children. She graduated from Mattituck High School. On Oct. 12, 1985, in Port Jefferson, she married Thomas D. Crabb. Together they had three children and made their home in Riverhead. She was a member of St. John the Evangelist R.C. Church in Riverhead. Throughout her career, she worked as a waitress and dietary aide, contributed to the family tire business, and later became second-in-command at a local oil company. Her family said her greatest professional fulfillment came from her role as a caregiver to her family and grandchildren.
She was predeceased by her parents, Maryann and Paul Michalecko, and her brother, Paul J. Michalecko.
She is survived by her husband, Thomas; her children, Thomas Crabb (Melissa) of Ridge, Melissa Griffing (Gregory) of Baiting Hollow, and Jacqueline Kluber (Terrence) of Carmel; her siblings, Irene Meadows, Maryann Zaykowski, Elizabeth Michalecko-Lambrecht and Jennifer Michalecko; and four grandchildren.
The family will receive friends Tuesday, April 7, from 5 to 7 p.m. at DeFriest-Grattan Funeral Home in Mattituck. Graveside services will be held Wednesday, April 8, at 10:30 a.m. at Sacred Heart R.C. Cemetery in Cutchogue, officiated by Deacon Doug Moran.
